No One is Coming - episode 172
No one is coming. There will be no rescues, no one to do the thing for you. Sure you will have your people, and they will be there for support and encouragement, to love you. When it comes to the work, the doing, the actual healing, well that’s all you. Peg Ruppert is here to share with us the hope and possibilities there are to thrive. She especially wants to share steps to help recover yourself fully post divorce.
About 37% of US marriages end in divorce. While that is actually lower than I guessed it still happens, and it’s still painful. You don’t hear about too many carefree, happy marriages deciding to call it quits. Quite unexpectedly, Peg has become something of an expert. She took her corporate work and applied it to the personal arena. Voila! This huge pivot of rediscovering yourself has become her passion as she looks to help those who want to do more than survive, those who want to do the work, and thrive.
Abundance. Generous. Resilient.
— Peg Ruppert
It’s a Choice
Thoughts from No One is Coming
No, I didn’t get divorced. I took Peg’s advice though to read her book, Rediscover You Post-Divorce (really it feels more like a booklet in length, coming in at 48 pages,) as it might have some things in it that would prove useful. She was right.
Without giving too much away, I got a lot out of recognizing the strengths I have and defining my core values. There was validation in reading through her questions and answering them for myself.
As you all know, I love to encourage. It is the central part of who I am. Now it comes in different forms which make up my core values of authenticity, transparency and vulnerability. It’s interesting to me that I clearly defined those for myself prior to starting the podcast and this blog. I claimed them as mine and they became very personal to me. It’s interesting how words can do that and you know how I love words.
Since I do like to encourage it was a no-brainer that I would read Peg’s book. After all she sent me a copy! That’s an interesting thing about being creative and creating content. If no one knows about it it feels two-dimensional. It comes to life more when it is shared, when someone tells you it moved them in some way or made them think about something or even that they felt a certain way. Isn’t that part of why we’re here? Being creative should not be done in a vacuum or left there. By definition it is meant to be out there, wherever out there is for you.
We talk about this often here. Your passion matters. Taking it out and sharing it matters. It doesn’t have to be big. You don’t need to write the next best seller or to have an award-winning TV series to make a difference. And the having impact part is a beautiful result of sharing the thing that makes you, you. Make it your purpose. Start small and simply see where that takes you. It’s in the joy of doing, releasing the results, then basking in the glow of having done, that is the deeply satisfying part.
Unabashed You was started because I wanted to speak into the lives of women and help them see they are so much more than who they think they are. (Then men jumped on the bandwagon, yay, and who knew?) As Aubrey, last week’s guest said, I want to see myself the way God sees me. Anything less and you are robbing yourself from squeezing out every last drop of life, challenge, joy, impact, creativity you have been gifted with. Really, what would you say to your dearest loved one? Shrink in. Step back. Be less. Don’t be fully you. No, you would not. You would encourage them to expand, to blossom, to be all that they can be. So why do you settle for less for yourself? Think about it. It makes no sense. It’s a choice. Decide you’re worth it because you are.
Decide you’re worth it because you are.
— RCN
