Time to Pivot - episode 132
Sometimes you need to pivot. Hillary and I planned two more assessments yet she came down with the same cold her kids did, and lost her voice. No problem. I figured we had covered quite a bit with the six tools we managed to explore: Myers-Briggs, 5 Love Languages, Enneagram, Spiritual Gifts, Emotional Intelligence and The Animal in You. Learned a ton. Feel more expanded in who I understand myself to be.
A big thanks to Hillary for being the co-host these past six weeks. Always entertaining, always the real deal. Thanks for being you - someone I think the world of, and am all too delighted to do a slice of life with.
With a couple more weeks before we head into November, and a new series, I called upon Shaun, the pinch-hitter man. Of course he was game to help out. We covered one of his passions, VoiceOver work (wait for his Alan Rickman, Christopher Walken, and Owen Wilson - priceless!) along with a round of rapid-fire questions from Elfster-blog. We decided to skip one question in particular as we both found it a bit mean-spirited. Again, we didn’t write the questions.
It is deeply satisfying to know you have certain people in your corner and no matter what the need is, they will do their all to help you get there. Thanks Shaun for sharing who you are with us, once again.
We can’t help everyone, but everyone can help someone.
— Dr. Loretta Scott
Become Who You Already Are
Thoughts from Time to Pivot
The tagline for Unabashed You is become who you already are. What exactly is meant by that? I heard it several years ago and here was the analogy used to help explain it. You’ve just given birth to your first child. You are now a mother or a father. Yet you have so much to learn, so many experiences to have to become a mother, a father in more of its expanse. Or the day you get married. You’ve had the wedding and now you will spend time becoming a wife or a husband. It’s the same thing. You aren’t fully there yet. This life is meant to be spent becoming all that you are. All the roles. You don’t arrive the second you take on a new one. Daughter, mother, sister, son, father, brother, friend, etc. These are meant to take a lifetime to even start to be realized.
Shaun is someone who is becoming who he already is. He is open to it. That is really a lot of what is necessary. Being open to explore who you are, following your gut, living with intention, treating others the way you want to be treated. It’s really not that hard but you have to want to. I’m sure you’ve met people who have a zest for life, they have a light and you are drawn to it. They show up fully themselves. Authentic. Transparent. Vulnerable. You find yourself wanting to be the same. There is inspiration there. There is an invitation to be you. It’s not about imitating them, or becoming more like them, it’s about being you. With safe people you will be able to do that very thing. You will feel alive in a way you haven’t before.
There are those people who haven’t quite figured it out. They are wounded. They haven’t actualized who they are. They may not want to or they may not know how to do it. They may lack the knowledge, the tools, or the opportunity. (Or even more crucial, their life circumstances of not having food, shelter or safety, the basics, keep them barely surviving.) If someone doesn’t feel safe to you it’s much harder to show up as yourself. You may find yourself holding back. A natural reaction. You’re assessing if it’s okay to proceed. Yet that is the challenge. You don’t want to settle for being less than you are. Remember you are not responsible for other people, how they feel, what they think, how they see you. You’ve got your hands full being you. And that is exactly as it should be.
I love this quote by Carl Jung. It’s what the unabashed you movement is all about.
The privilege of a lifetime is to become who you really are.
— Carl Jung
