Anything is Possible - episode 93
We shouldn’t outsource our happiness or look to someone else to make us who we are. It is one of the nuggets shared by Traci today during our conversation. It’s the idea that you need to be complete and whole within yourself before you can share who you are with someone else. This is the healthy approach to connecting with another.
Traci is a relationship coach. The road to get there took a lot of maneuvering through some very rough, painful terrain. I am grateful she’s made it out the other side of the hard times and can now use those experiences to help other women. Get to know who you are so you can show up in your relationships full, healthy and ready to love. Once you do that, anything is possible.
Open. Affirming. Affectionate.
— Traci Ferguson
Things are Happening Every Day
Thoughts from Anything is Possible
Looking at the title for Traci’s episode, Anything is Possible, I found myself humming a song from a long time ago, It’s Possible. It’s from the musical, Rogers and Hammerstein’s Cinderella. Another formative work of art that debuted in 1965 and only came on television once a year. (There was no streaming then!) It’s interesting that I found myself thinking about this song I hadn’t heard for a very long time. If I look back I realize why this show had impact on a young girl.
For starters it was filmed live so it had the feel of seeing a play. That was new to me. Next it starred Lesley Ann Warren who was a brunette. This was incredible to the brown-haired, brown-eyed girl that I was. It had music, humor and romance. There was nothing better. Within several years I knew most of the words and probably acted out some of the parts. I have a vague memory of crouching down like she did for the song, In My Own Little Corner. I’m pretty sure I sounded as good as she did. (Ok, that is definitely an exaggeration, but a little girl should think she sounds good and can perform, why not!)
There was romance. Cinderella showed up to the ball in a beautiful gown and they did fall in love. (I remember thinking the king and queen were quite regal.) I’m sure these notions of love had impact and no doubt I overly romanticized many relationships early on. Once you grow up you realize some of the messages you received were not realistic. I don’t fault the story of Cinderella. I like that it was a part of my childhood, of seeing a strong brunette woman get the life she deserved. Remember I also grew up with Mary Richards from The Mary Tyler Moor Show and Ann Marie from That Girl so there was plenty of independent women to look up to. I did and I do.
Whatever you wish for, you keep.
— Cinderella
