Are you Showing Up as YOU? - episode 113
I had the opportunity to be on Molly Mandelberg’s podcast, Tactical Magic. She was a guest on UY I Believe in the Law of Attraction episode 104. She reached out and proposed we be on each other’s show so we did. I enjoy collaborating. You don’t know what things you may uncover about yourself, or others, through connection. It was a pleasure to talk about what I want for me. What I want for you.
We talked a lot about being yourself and feeling confident to sit fully in that. I know it’s not easy. I believe we spend far too much time wondering what others think and tailor-making who we are to fit into expectations that aren’t actually ours. I think we all do it to a degree perhaps in particular situations or around specific people. My goal for myself, and for you, is to do less wondering, and expand into who you already are, without apology. Sound familiar?
In-process. Collaborator. Encourager.
— Rechelle
Would you Jig in the Grocery Store?
Thoughts from Me on Molly’s Show
As I re-listened to the conversation Molly and I had, I had to chuckle at the part where I said if I heard a good song in the grocery store, I would break out into a little jig. It’s true, I would. Or if hear a good song I may decide to sing along. Let me expand this thought.
I’m not trying to be the center of attention. Actually I’m quite uncomfortable being the center of attention. It’s not my thing.
Yet, it is SO me to share in expressing self through song and dance. I think that’s why I’ve loved performing arts at such a young age. The emotion catches in my throat, I start to get teary, and I often get goosebumps.
In my circles I am known for this. So much so that one friend starting calling me Dancing Heart. (Thanks, Ali!) Let me be clear. I am not a dancER, a singER or an actOR, but I love all three and for me, that’s the important part. I understand this is not everyone’s preferred method of expression so I’m not asking, or expecting you to be like me. Be like you.
If you are being more you, and this thought pops in your head, What will people think?, you may want to take a look at that. Better to expand into who you are then to have regrets on the backend.
And finally take care when you are in a position, or have the power, to make a difference in someone’s life. I honestly believe each person who says to themselves, What will people think? had some kind of remarkable (and not in a good way) moment when someone said or did something to squelch you. They made a comment, embarrassed you, etc. and you started to retreat into yourself. You started to become just a little less you, afraid of what people might think.
Well let’s stop listening to that voice. What’s the worst thing that could happen if you are MORE you? Your people will still be your people. They get you already and that’s not going to change. As for the rest? What’s more important? What they might think or who you are? You get to pick. You get to choose and live into that.
You wouldn’t worry so much about what others think of you, if you realized how seldom they did.
— Eleanor Roosevelt
The gang and me during a serious Urban Cowboy phase. Yes, you can chuckle.
