10 Strategies to Combat ‘SETTLING’ - episode 290
We call them ‘BE’ Practices.
Here on the Unabashed You podcast, we talk honestly about becoming more of who you are—not less. So many of us reach this season of life having done everything right—and still feel a low-grade ache we can’t explain. If you’ve been telling yourself, this is fine, but your soul knows better—this is for you.
We had a webinar recently on 10 Signs You’re Settling (and Calling It Wisdom) - very impactful. If you want the replay give us a shout.
In today’s episode we will hear about 10 strategies to combat each of the 10 signs. We call them ‘BE’ Practices. As in ‘brave enough’ to get started, to take the first step.
This isn’t about blowing up your life. It’s about noticing where comfort has replaced being brave enough to decide what you want next, and not settling.
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Each of you should use whatever gift you have received to serve others, as faithful servants of God's grace in its various forms.
1 Peter 4:10
— I’m using mine
I’ll Never Be Satisfied
Thoughts from 10 Strategies to Combat ‘SETTLING’
So what’s wrong with settling? Nothing really. It’s just that at your last breath on this earth will you feel truly satisfied, as in you did all that you could, you showed up the most you that you could be, or as Alexander Hamilton sings in Hamilton, I’ll never be satisfied. (Great play by the way - my absolute favorite. We’ve seen it four times! Twice on Broadway. Ok, not to brag but I do think that is VERY cool.). Hamilton was driven. He had much to do, and the sense that time was limited. (Of course that came to be the case as we see toward the end of the play.)
We don’t have to have that same intense drive but what will we think about our own lives as they draw nigh. When it’s our time, will we say to God, I used all the gifts you gave me and I didn’t leave any blessings on the table. He doesn’t expect perfection of course, just trust and love in action. Those who work with the dying (they are angels, right?) report there are common themes and this seems like a good place to take a look at them. (Thank you Google, as you are a handy tool.)
The Top Five Regrets of the Dying
Living for Others: Wishing I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
Overworking: Wishing I hadn't worked so hard, which often led to missing out on life and family.
Suppresing Emotions: Wishing I'd had the courage to express my feelings openly.
Neglecting Friendships: Wishing I had stayed in touch with my friends.
Choosing Happiness: Wishing I had let myself be happier and realized that happiness is a choice.
How do you measure up to these? That’s a great question and one I encourage you to ponder. Really, reflect and see how you are doing. If you’re not where you want to be then may I suggest you make some changes? They don’t have to be huge, they can be small. This is about being more you, not you becoming someone else. This is about not having regrets, it’s about squeezing every last bit of life out that you can. It’s likely about love. It’s likely about sharing. It’s likely about service.
In my third act, I am about all three. It is my heartfelt desire to love as best I can, to share the encouragement God has gifted me with, and to serve those that want to thrive. You see I can relate to Hamilton’s refrain of I will never be satisfied, because there was still more for him to do, and he wanted to do it. That passion would not leave him alone and it seems it will not leave me alone either. Amen and amen.
So don’t be.
— The choice is yours
